Toxic Mindsets

My Past Is Controlling My Future

A lot of people striving for success end up sabotaging themselves because they feel that they really can't achieve any great success in the future because of their past. They think that they have screwed up enough so often and so severely in the past that future victories are really not going to happen.

They're shooting for second or third prize or even no prize at all. In fact, in many cases, they're just going through the motions. They've given up on the race before they even started.

An alternate version of this is the ridiculous idea that you have to somehow start with a completely clean slate to make real changes in your life. In other words, you're going to have to be perfect.

Because you've already made mistakes, you've already screwed up, either way, both versions lead you to the same place: you don't even bother making a change. You discourage yourself from even trying. In your mind, it’s a foregone conclusion before you even start.

Well, the good news is that the past does not define you. You may have failed an infinite number of times before, but that does not prevent you from getting it right this time.

The only way you will fail is when you read your long record of failures as something so discouraging and so debilitating that you don't even try. That's how you fail. You fail when you quit.

It is said Thomas Edison failed 1,000 times before coming up with working electric light bulb.  However, his attitude was he had found 1,000 ways that would not work. Notice he said found, not he failed.

Once again, you have to quit letting your past dictate your future