Helping Others Bounce Back

Helping Others Bounce Back From The Mistakes You Made

or Helping Others Not Make Those Same Mistakes

You have made some mistakes in your life, right? It happens, and there is nothing you can do to change the fact that you made them. You can try to take steps to make up for them. But, they are there to stay. Here’s an idea. Why not use your mistakes as a way to help others who have experienced the same ones?

The first thing you could do is ask if they want to talk about it? When they find out that someone else made the mistake, this can lighten the situation. They will see they aren’t the only ones. It can turn the situation from heavy embarrassment to being able to laugh about it, as long as it’s not too serious a mistake.

Listening can help, even if the mistake is serious. You may even be able to advise about what to do to fix the situation or at least, how to keep from doing it again. Not every mistake is fixable, but you may be able to point the person in the right direction on things that can be done. For instance, if you had to use a lawyer to help with your mistake, you could suggest they use the same lawyer.

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If the mistakes are such that some people aren’t sure what to do, you can help them find support groups. This would be especially helpful if you are a member of those support groups. An example would be helping someone through addiction. Perhaps they lost their license or had legal troubles because of it. You could offer to attend a meeting with them. If you have been going through the meetings on a regular basis, you probably have made friends, and the person you are helping won’t seem as out of place when starting out.

If people who are making mistakes are not willing to admit to them, there isn’t going to be much you can do to help them. They need to recognize that something is not right and that they have to make changes. To keep with the addiction example, if they don’t admit that they even have a problem, you won’t be able to do or say anything to convince them otherwise. Every person has to come to terms with mistakes such as these. It is hoped that they finally get around to admitting it before something truly terrible happens.

 

 Knowledge Reduces The Possibility Of Mistakes

People make mistakes all the time. You can probably rattle off several of them you’ve made just as others can. If you want to recover from your mistakes, you first need to identify that you made them. Once you do this, you want to learn how to do everything possible to avoid doing them again. This takes knowledge.

Some situations are going to require you to learn via trial-and-error. This means you have no choice but to make mistakes. However, there are many situations that can be learned before experiencing. Some people choose to circumvent the learning process which makes it highly likely they will make mistakes. Either they don’t want to take the time to learn or they don’t want to pay for it. The sad part is they will end up spending more time and money by not learning to do things before they take the plunge.

There’s less excuse not to train yourself now than ever before. The internet offers blogs such as our Senior Income Blog and websites like this one, with a wealth of quality information that you can find for low cost and sometimes even free. You won’t have to travel, and you can learn at your own pace. Of course, this is not the best way for some people to learn. They need formal instruction with a qualified teacher.

Still, even if you want to sign up for formal instruction, it’s not a bad idea to find some preliminary training to get a leg up. Just do a search with your favorite search engine for the subject you are trying to learn. You may have to spend some time to find free resources, although you can probably find some good information on YouTube.

If you make a mistake because of a lack of knowledge, and you want to avoid making the same mistakes, seek out others who may have overcome based on training or experience. You can ask them how they learned the right way and take it from there. This can even be the basis for becoming friends as you’ll have some common experiences.

If you are making mistakes due to not having experience or knowledge it is imperative that you get training, like you are getting here, in order to be successful. Or should I say in order to be successful without making all the costly mistakes I made?

 Refuse To Live with Regrets

This is probably the most important section of this lesson. Unless you refuse to live in the past, dwelling on your mistakes you are going to be stuck or at best move forward at a very slow pace. Once you realize you are going to make mistakes you need to own up to them when you make them, help others to avoid them, get the knowledge to limit mistakes in the future and then move on. Helping others is a big part of moving on because there is a certain amount of “therapy” that happens to you when you help others.

Everyone is going to have some regrets. You may have made a mistake with your career, or you passed on “the one who got away.” Whatever it may be, there is nothing that can be done about those regrets. So move on.

Many people get stuck in the past, and it can cripple them from living a quality life. They continue to bring up events that have happened, and some even use it as an excuse to feel sorry for themselves. When this happens, they will not progress in their lives. It can get so bad they even start to take on negative behaviors such as heavy alcohol use or drugs. Once this happens, it can be difficult to break this habit.

If someone close to you passes on and you have regrets about your life together, realize they would want you to move on. They aren’t coming back. Instead of thinking about those regrets, think about the good times you shared.  It is an excellent idea, in a case like this, to recall what you may have learned from that person. I was an only child and my Dad and I were close so when he passed away it was extremely difficult for me to “suck it up and move on”. What got me through it, besides my relationship with Jesus, was when I started thinking about the things I learned from him and then apply those things to help others. Focusing on my regrets about the opportunities I missed with him would have kept me from ever being happy again.